with Aaron lastnight
Yes, he’s a reservist but there’s still a possibility of his unit getting deployed. Eventually he’ll go active and we will have to deal with deployment without any choice.
Lastnight he basically told me about what he will be doing if he gets depoyed to Afghanistan. I am not…
I’ve been where you’ve been, so I understand your fears. And every deployment is different, for each unit, for each Marine, and for each lady back home, so I won’t say that it’ll be like mine. But I will say that I believe you can survive it, and your relationship could too :) But only you two know your relationship, and what’s best for it, and yourselves, individually.
Some guys in Justin’s battalion saw a lot of action; Justin saw none. Some guys could hardly communicate with home, and some guys just didn’t try; Justin communicated as often as possible with me, and it actually was a lot! Again, every situation is different…
But I am so glad I went through this — that WE went through this! I mean, if I could’ve, of course, I would’ve had him home for the past six months lol! But we are stronger for it — individually and together. I am much more patient, and sensitive with other people, because you never know what they’re going through, just like they couldn’t know that I was going through a deployment the whole time. And we had to go through all the normal relationship problems from 7000-some miles away, with little communication, but we made it work. A deployment can either make or break a relationship.
And I’ve always found this quote to be true in life and any relationship, but especially military ones: “Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.” Comte DeBussy-Rabutin
Hope you feel better soon :) I know it’s scary, but you are by no means alone in this ;) <3
